According to Richard Lazarus, stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize. Simply put, we encounter a problem; we think that we may not now how to or that we don’t have what it takes to deal with the problem; then we experience an emotional state in which we feel overwhelmed or like we are losing control of a given situation.
We have ALL EXPERIENCED STRESS of some kind on several occasions whether it was before a first date, buying a house or getting married (all good stresses known as eustress). We may have experienced it as losing a job, a death in the family, or an illness/disease (bad stresses known as distress). Eustress and distress do have one thing in common, the way we cope with them.
There are many different and effective stress management. No one is right or wrong, or better for that matter. The important thing is that you find what works for you and employ it in your everyday stressful activities. It can be before a meeting, a baseball game, a test at school etc.
Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It shows you are alive and that you care (no matter how simple and silly it may sound). It is how we chose to deal with it that will shape the outcome of the current and future “stressful” events.
My motto is, “Don’t worry about the things you can’t change, just take control of the things you can.”
Stay tuned for the follow-up post on specific stress relieving activities and relaxation techiniques to help cope!
Posted Dr. Rashaad Nauth-Ali on July 20th, 2011 [Exercise, Fitness, Health and Wellness]